Loving yourself and what does it really take?
Since I made the decision to quit my day job life has been an interesting ride. Quitting a job is really not that big of a deal in the
grand scheme of life. But for me this became a learning lesson about myself on many deep levels. It has highlighted what I truly want out of life and helped me to find what will truly make me happy. I learned about the importance of loving yourself fully from the inside out.
The process became a roller coaster of emotions, decisions, and release. On one hand it was the most freeing decision I had made in a long time. On the other hand I was secretly beating myself up for not making an income for over 2 months. I felt a sort of Jekyll and Hyde. As my spirit trusted myself for take this leap of faith, my ego wanted to take no part in such liberations. But I brushed off all the negativity I had ingested for the past couple of years and continued to move forward. I kept my head held high as I listened to my higher self. I trusted that voice of where I was supposed to take the next step. And this journey has been a great gift from the universe.
Trust Yourself: Only you know deep down the direction YOU should go, what YOU should do next, and why.
What has been revealed to me over the past few years is that I have had a very hard time trusting myself. I did not believe in every decision that I made weather it was bad or good. As much as I would say that I did not care what other people thought of me, I really did. The truth is, deep down I overly valued the opinions of others. If one person expressed a lack of understanding or negativity towards my decision I let it affect me. I would let that opinion sway me from moving forward in what I had chosen. Being honest with myself in this great discovery really has lifted a weight off my subconscious. My honesty has helped me gain a sort of confidence that I did not even know I was lacking.
Meditation is one big daily routine has really helped me in developing trust. Or what we call in the Master Keys “The Sit”. Taking 15 minutes a day and calming the mind and focusing inward I have started to listen fully to my own voice. Also The Sit has helped me pay attention to the repeated guidance from my higher self. It is where I truly have gained the wisdom and knowledge of learning how to trust my decisions, my own unique voice, and myself.
Turning Negative Traits Into Positive Traits: What if you took every part of you that you silently beat yourself up over and found that maybe these perceived negative aspects of yourself really have positive attributes to your life?
This is where loving yourself really starts to take shape. I had an epiphany a couple weeks ago that I needed to take these “ego beatings” and find the gifts. I asked myself “For each perceived flaw what could I do to use that positively in my life? And what might I be missing that this flaw could actually be one of my greatest strengths?” I decided make this a mission, to take these newfound strengths and put them to good use. I will report later on what I discover.
Follow Your Dreams: Maybe cliché, but actually you WILL increase your happiness.
If you read my past blogs you can vividly see week after week my spirit being squandered. The longer I was not following my dreams
and the longer I was shackled to that desk the more my unhappiness increased. I had my dreams screaming at me daily, but I continued to silence them for the sake of a paycheck. To follow at least one dream, you do not have to go to the extremity that I did. Because the moment you take a single step your heart will soar! I felt my mood continually increase with every little step I took to move towards what my heart was calling for.
When we oppress our deepest dreams we become increasingly unhappy and when we are unhappy we are not loving our true selves. Meditation is another great place to discover your dreams. You may not know exactly what they are and that is ok. Just take some time and get quiet and honest with yourself. Dreams do come in all sized so don’t discard even the smallest of ideas that make your heart flutter.
Never Stop Learning: Just because school may have ended doesn’t mean that your spirit wants to stop learning, growing, and expanding.
I never went to actual University so I still have a thirst for learning. Not to say that people who went to college no longer want to learn. I just feel some days that my lack of a formal education fuels me to constantly expand my mind. I also have a need for seeking out constant personal growth. But what I have found in myself is that when I am sitting idle and not expanding my mind, my thoughts, or my experiences my self worth starts to diminish. I challenge myself constantly to learn something new whether I am interested in the subject or not. I will also continually say yes to new experiences or doing activities out of my comfort zone. The point is the simple experience, you do not have to like everything that you try.
Abraham Hicks talks a lot about our experience here (on Earth) is simply the contrast, constantly navigating through our likes and dislikes. So really I cannot be so hard on myself that I just did not like my job or that I spent over 2 years doing it. I gained a new trade and expanded my mind. I found that I disliked the work and challenged myself to find work that I love.
Put down your phone, turn off the TV and pick up an informational book or enroll in a fun class you have always wanted to take. Try out a restaurant that you would never eat at. Or take a trip to a place you have never been. This could even be a city or town near the one you live in.
Your Body Is Your Temple: Another cliché statement, but it holds more truth that you may realize.
I LOVE to have a good time! And I rarely will ever turn down a glass of wine. But as I become more in tune with my body I have also
learned how insanely sensitive it is. I was not in tune and did not listening to what my body was trying to tell me for many years. So for more years that I would like to admit I did not feel the greatest and missed out on many wonderful experiences. Because my insides were screaming at me to pay attention and stop the abuse. The more I have started to listen to what my body needs my spirit has began to jump for joy. When I take care of my body, my body takes care of me. And you are truly loving yourself in return .
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Letting Go Of The Past: This is another big one. You have to let it all go! We can only change the past by changing our future.
We have to let it all go to truly stop the cycles. I spent the past 2 months of unemployment reflecting on every move that I had made in the past. I found I was creating another cycle because I had not yet forgave myself for the decision I had made back then. And I was trying to relive this old life in a new one. I was not loving myself and for my choices that I made back then. I was still subconsciously beating myself up and I was living my future from my past mistakes. But I have realized that changing my future and how I handle all of life’s trials and tribulations changes the past. Because I am loving myself and letting go of the illusions that I have let stand in my way.
Taking Charge: Loving yourself truly is about taking charge of your life!
Stand up for your beliefs. Stand up for your heart. Stand up for your goals and soar. If you allow the universe to take care of you, it will. If you allow your higher self to take care of you, he/she will. If you believe in God, Jesus, Buddha or any other faith, it will. You must be true to yourself and your heart and find the love it is longing for. And once you allow yourself to love yourself you will begin to find love in all walks of life. PEACE.
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